WHEN PARENTS DISAGREE AND WHAT YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT
How to Raise Great Kids While You Strengthen Your Marriage
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SHE: “I want him to participate more, but he does things so differently that it’s quicker to do it my way.”
He: “She wants me to do 50% of the work, but she wants 100% of the control.”
They: “How can we present a united front for our kids and stop arguing with each other?”
People talk about what we need to do to help our kids and rarely focus on what parents need to do to help each other stay in charge and strengthen their relationships. In this book, I address the almost impossible dilemmas that are right under the surface in just about every parenting configuration. Regardless of changing political beliefs, most of us still operate using a ‘mom’s in charge – dad helps out’ model. In every aspect of child-rearing this creates mutual resentment and ineffective authority. Addressing this outdated paradigm and applying it to everyday issues, I discuss how to:
- Recognize whether your parent team divides tasks ineffectively – and what to do about it.
- Create a united front – – even as kids and time make this seem impossible.
- Get past myths about gender – discipline, talking to kids and who’s really good at what.
- Increase men’s sense of responsibility – and women’s need to be in charge and monitor.
- Stop undermining each other – by learning how to use and expand each parent’s strengths.
- Divide and conquer – sibling rivalry and the parenting team.
- Stop ‘losing it’ with each other – especially when kids play one off the other.
- Create greater intimacy – what to do to connect when everyday stressors pull us apart.
This revolutionary book -featured on TV’s 20/20 and translated into several languages asks and answers the questions parents face every day. Great kids and a stronger relationship? Yes! Using proven methods with vivid examples, parents can work together to raise good kids and put the romance back in their marriage.
“A must read. It will help men and women understand themselves, understand each other, reduce their conflicts, and as a result, be much more effective parents.”
— Ellen Galinsky, co-author of The Pre-School Years
“Taffel is a genius of addressing the real-life challenges parents face, all the while reaffirming the joys of raising kids.”
— Freddi Greenberg, editor-in-chief, Child Magazine
“I highly recommend this book for all parents in pursuit of that elusive goal, a united front.”
— Arlie Hochschild, author of The Second Shift